This is all new to me and i am finding it very stressfull. My partner and I are in the process of seperating after five years and we have a 14 month old son. We bought a house together when we first met but he is making it really heard for me and my son to continue living there. I am currently unemployed and my only source of income is through the benefit system. I am going round the letting agents this morning to try and find us somewhere to live which will have to be paid by benefits, i have always worked and have never been in this situation before. My sons dad already has a 7 year old son from a previous relationship which he has three times a week. I see how he brings hes 7 year old up and i dont agree with it, this being the reason i dont want him to have contact with my son. My ex partner thinks by taking my son to the pub with him is him taking him out and doing things with him. Once i have found somewhere for myself and my son to live i will be leaving and not telling him where we are going. Could you please tell me what my rights are and also what rights he has as a dad and what he can do legally. Many Thanks.
(my spelling is crap) but sadly yes all dads have a rite to see there kids unless of certaine circumstanses. Im currently in a mess myself n dont know what to do coz i have a 4 month old baby involved in all this. The best thing you can do is to come to a civil agreement between you both out of court coz its less upsetting n stressful for the kid .x.
I must add that although the post above is correct and unless denied access by a court of law he has the right to see his child, and also an amicable out of court agreement is best and less expensive/stressul etc sometimes going to court is the only option. You should insist to your ex that you do not consider his access to the child being held in a public house is not in the best interests of your child and I feel that you should seek legal advice on if this represents unreasonable behaviour. I knew someone who had his access rights reduced to the minimum of two hours a week because of similar reasons.
I know this is a difficult situation but you need to consider the effect it will have on the child if he doesnt have his dad in his life and years from now it will may go against you in the childs eye. Look at the bigger picture as the child will one day become an adult and will work it out for himself.
I say this as I did what your comtemplating 25 years ago and my daughter of 28 contacted me for the first time 14 weeks ago and is very angry and is only now starting the process of facing up to her demons which is so so difficult for her to handle and is a direct result of my walking away in pain all those years ago which I deeply regret now,.
I feel for you and DamagedGoods postings dilemma. Regarding the subject of does the father have a right to see their child, well I believe that each situation is different and should be dealt with acordingly to suit that situation. Not all fathers deserve to see their children. I have a 10 year old son who has regular contact with his dad and thats not a problem but I am currently 31 weeks pregnant an divorcing my husband of just over a year for deserting us when I was only 4 months pregnant. I've found he's lied about lots of things and to cut a long story short I've been to hell and back with him and his problems for almost a year and a half. He's been demanding my medical info with I've flatly refused so now he's dreaming up trivial matters such as the possibility of some of his daughters toys being at my house! he knows full well there aren't any but because I deny him what he wants he dreams up other ways to try and break me like he did to his first wife. I AM A FIGHTER and think he has seriously underestimated my strength. Suffice to say if I have anything to do with it I will NEVER allow him access to my baby when it's born. Never mind this 'fathers have a right malarkey'. I'm thinking of my baby here not myself. I'm not selfish at all. Far from it as much as I'd love to burn every single photo of my husband and his nightmare of a daughter, I have put them away until such a day that my baby asks for them. My story is much longer than I can post on here but trust me, he is not a good father. So ladies, if you think you're ex's dn't deserve to see their children then fight for your beliefs. Don't get me wrong I am a true believer in 'fathers for justice' but as I said, each case is unique and should be dealt with accordingly.
It is totally depends on one of the individual, as after a divorce also, father have a right to see his child until and unless he got a legal permission for this, .else, besides of so many disputes between parents, every parent is having a right to see their child, so if their is a case like one parent don not want other parent to see her child than he can claim for this in the court.
done try to do such thing .
i mean go and hide somewhere.
he can even lodge a complain against you for a parental kidnapping.
so take the help of an attorney and try to get a divorce and full custody of the child.
Divorcing one’s spouse is not an excuse for divorcing your duties and responsibilities as a parent. Your kids, depending on when that occurs, are likely to drift into treacherous waters if you and your spouse don’t hold steadfast to principles of parenting after divorce.
