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Posted by: suzi
05/01/08 at 11:26 pm

I need some help or advice my husband decided to leave the marital home 8 weeks ago out of the blue by saying he wanted out of the relationship as he wanted his freedom. We have been married for 32 years so it is some what of a shock there is no one else involved and no unreasonable behaviour,I have seen him only once and talked only once since he left and he still says he loves me that has never been in question he has feelings and cares for me please help he does not want a divorce and is not sure if he wants a trial or a permanent seperation so i am somewhat confused. People say its midlife crisis please help i need advice as to wether this marraige can be saved as we were happy before.

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Re: Help advice needed

Posted by: Bella
06/01/08 at 4:08 pm

Dear friend

My husband also decided that after 29 years of marriage he is in need of his freedom. He's in love with someone else who does not want him, but we cannot face life together anymore. Yes, people says it is middle life crisis but I'm not staying around to find out since he said that he does  not love me and wants me to go . He does come back on those things he said, trying to make them smaller, but  I can see through him now. all I can say to you is what I say to myself- it's better a bitter end than bitterness without end.

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Posted by: ELIZABETH
12/02/08 at 11:02 pm

Hello Suzi,

Firstly, may I say I empathise with your new situation.  It cannnot be easy at all and you will still no doubt be in shock for a while.  I would say sit tight, do nothing.  It sounds very much like a mid-life crisis, a cliche it may be but after such a long marriage and no unreasonable behaviour this is very odd behaviour!  Do you have any children?

I am new to this so forgive me if my reply is sketchy!

 

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Posted by: kenn@springgarden
15/02/08 at 7:53 pm

Hi Suzi,

I hear what you are saying, but I have to say that I think there could well be another person involved. He said he still loves you etc etc, so why is he not still with you. He has to be lying! Something has changed he may not want to let you know what it is but something has definately changed!!! Tie him down, ask him outright, tell him you need to know exactly what he's up to. If he does love/care for you then he should tell you straight, no bull.

Good luck.

Kenn Griffiths Independent Family Social Worker, Contact Consultant and Private Investigator.

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Posted by: kiethatela
24/06/09 at 5:46 am

Did you have a big problem in your past few years? Or did you have any arguments those past days? Didn't you feel any coldness from your partner those past days? Maybe your partner has some problem and doesn't feel talking openly with you. Just assess your partner's problem, maybe he has this big problem keeping only to his self. And try reading other articles, maybe this might gave you additional knowledge or advice. http://www.solutionbay.org/problems/relationship-breakdown

Keep going dear! God Bless!
 

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Re: Help advice needed

Posted by: sssknair
29/07/09 at 10:43 am

If  you are clear that your husband will not leave you then don't take any step your husband will come back to you otherwise visit any dating site to find dating personals and chat with them.

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Re: Help advice needed

Posted by: alexanderalexander
16/09/09 at 8:44 am

http://www.themodernman.com  has all the answers to your questions. The site is a dating site with lots of help for a successful date.

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