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Posted by: clare
02/04/07 at 11:17 pm

Can someone tell me how to acheive 'closure' and start to move on?

My husband is in Thailand ,with his new life,and I am in UK with our teenagers.

We went there together,to start a business,but necessity brought me home with the kids for o levels etc. and he strayed.

There was much more skullduggery  involved,and I found out by accident.

I haven't been back since,over 5 years now,and I still can't move on.

I can't get over the complete betrayal.and it feels like someone has died.You actually grieve.

Please,can anyone help?

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Re: Moving on

Posted by: kenn@springgarden
10/04/07 at 8:10 pm

Well Clare, you are right to make the comparison between bereavment and separation/divorce. The sense of loss is very much in the same emmotional field. As with coping with death everyone deals with it differently. No one should tell you how to move on. You will do this when you are good and ready. What you could do is sit down and write a list of your feelings and beliefs. Then ask yourself what you really want and what you would have to do to achieve it. It may not be achievable and so you need to be honest with yourself. Ask yourself what would be different if a miracle happened overnight. No one but you knows it's happened. What would it be? Who would notice the difference in you? What would they notice? By doing this you may be better able to understand what is needed for you to move on and adjust your mind set appropriately.

Kenn Griffiths Independent Children and Family Social Waorker, Contact Consultant and Private Investigator.

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Re: Moving on

Posted by: andrewmoquin
07/09/09 at 2:40 am

There is nothing out there that can ease the intense pain and suffering you are going through right now. Only time and allowing yourself to experience the grief and sadness can make you feel better.Working through and releasing your emotions in a healthy way is the best medicine. So let it out by punching a pillow, writing a letter to your ex and burning it and allowing yourself to have a good cry. Try to look for other, healthier ways to release your emotions instead of using food to make yourself feel better.


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