help please

Posted by: chowarth576
08/03/07 at 9:27 pm

i have been married for nearly 8 yrs and with my husband for 16 yrs. i was his first and am 2 yrs older than he is. recently we keep arguing shouting and yelling.. there are numerous reasons.. 1) i have put on weight and am attending weight watchers to try and help but with our issues i find it hard because i eat when depressed.
2) 18 mnths ago i lost a baby at 11 weeks after trying for a baby for 8 yrs without sucess. i am too fat to have ifv and have polycystic ovaries. we had many tests and it is because of me that we do not concieve. again this upsets me and i eat. 3) my husband really wants our own baby and i have kind of accepted its not going to happen.
4) i have just taken a new job 10 months ago and its fairly new and interesting but my huby has had the same job for 14 yrs and hates his job but i  am very possesive and dont want him working nights etc or having to go away for weeks training i am naturally jealous and search his phone and pockets i am truthful and dont do it slyly. 5) we are in debt and his job pays handsomely and he feels he cant leave his place of employment 6) each day he just wants to attack his boss and he comes home in terrible moods and blames me and is offhand with me. 7) my father died 6 yrs ago and i was really close to him and since then i kind of take care of my mum each week and refuse to move unless i can take her with me 8) my huby always wants something different one week he wants to move abroad the next he wants a new job the next he wants to move away agin i cant keep up. i do not pooh pooh his ideas all the time i would be happy to go with my mum and he says he would be happy to take her but our finances will not let us .9) i think i want a divorce i cant be this person any more he is good looking a little chubby but nothing major i am well overweight but am not silly about it i am still ver confident he is not confident at all i dont have many freinds we both have been together so long we both kind of lost contact with friends and i feel quite alone . i dont like to upset my mum by discussing my relationship with her. help?